Date myself???

So a coach I've been working with for awhile said I should date myself.  Hmmm...what does that look like? 

Well she said that when you are dating someone you usually ask a lot of questions to discover who they are.  Of course, that's assuming they are, first and foremost, honest.  When I do that, the first thing it brings up for me is ‘my story’.  So then the second thing it brings up is, who would I be without my story?

While ‘my story’ defines me, in recent years I’ve wondered how accurate it is.  I’m one of those people who can remember back to when I was a baby in a crib.  I can also remember an incident when I would have been less than 1 year old, where my mother was brushing my scalp (details provided by her later in life) to encourage my hair to curl, something a hospital brochure of the day told her to do.  All I actually recall is the pain, crying and my grandmother sitting across from us…my mother wouldn’t stop and it hurt.

Okay, so back to dating myself and the fact I can see that ‘my story’ stands in the way of experiencing every day in an open and free way.  I have expectations based upon my past experiences; I also have prejudices that close down or narrow my experience of life.  Asking questions will help me sort the wheat from the chaff and should provide me with new perspective and insight into myself.

I’ll let you know how this turns out.